How to Make Friends in a New City
Congrats! You've moved to a new city! Whether it's for a job, your family, or you've moved to a new city with your significant other, moving is a fun/weird/challenging time. Take it from a girl that moved every single year when she was growing up until high school.
I'm not joking.
I moved each year throughout my elementary/middle school years and finally set some roots down during my high school years. All this moving was obviously not by choice but there's not a whole lot an 8 year old can say to their parents about moving.
But over the years I've been able to find little ways to make it easier to find friends. It's scary, tough, and nerve racking, and a little like dating! But trust me, it can be done! Before you know it, you'll have found your new circle of friends in your new favorite city.
It's so easy to stay inside and hide when you move to a new city. It's a big scary world out there! But you've got to fight the temptation to stay inside and just watch Netflix all day. Get outside and take a walk around this big, new city of yours. You took the first scary step of actually making the move, now make something of it! By going on walks you can start discovering little gems in your neighborhood and start to get a feel of what your city's vibe is. When I was younger, we would hop in the car around 10 or 11 at night when the streets were empty and just drive. We'd get lost, sing bad songs on the radio, and attempt to find our way around our city. This was a great way to get us acclimated and find how to get home.
Do you know a friend that knows someone in your city? Ask them to connect you! Most people realize that moving is difficult and are willing to meet up for a walk, dinner, or drinks. Who knows, this could be a new friend that can show you the inner workings of the city!
Make an Effort with Coworkers
One of my favorite ways to make friends is by going to lunch or happy hour drinks with coworkers. Find a coworker in your office and see if they want to grab lunch and dish about what there is to do here. You'll start getting closer and over time, start getting invited to activities outside of work.
Take a Class
Another way to meet others, and get out of your home, is by taking a class! Whether that's yoga, a sport you love to play, or an artistic course like painting, taking a class can open up a thousand doors to others that share your same passion.
We all know I'm a huge advocate for volunteering, and for good reason! It's a great way to give back to your community, help it flourish, and help meet others. You'll be amazed at how many talented and caring people you'll meet when volunteering. I've walked away from events that I've organized to witness so many individuals link up and become friends. Go out there and volunteer somewhere you feel passionate about! Bonus points if it's an animal shelter ;).
If there's one piece of advice to take away from this its to say yes. Be open, vulnerable, and say yes to opportunities and invitations. Go hike that mountain with your coworker! Take a 3-hour inversion yoga class! Say yes to dinner with a new friend! Opening yourself up to these new opportunities will not only help you make new friends but also open up a whole new world of possibilities. Isn't that just magical?
Moving is incredibly scary but it's ok. Whether you do it alone or with a significant other/loved one, it will be ok. Take this time in your life to really explore and immerse yourself into a whole new world. Who knows what could happen! Take it from a girl that's moved a million times around the U.S. and across the Atlantic, it's possible and it will be ok. Moving forces you out of your comfort zone and will help develop your interpersonal relationship skills with others.
Have you moved to a new city before alone? What was your experience like moving and making new friends? I'd love to hear your tips in the comments!
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